What is courtship, expectations in relationships, and purity all about
This posting is going to be the beginning of my recent thoughts on these very core issues. I have been giving the idea of dating some more thought lately.. and also the notion of courting.
I think many people out there in various circles probably don't really choose to use the word "courting". The word courting that I am referring to is used in the context of dating, with the intent of marriage in the future. Pretty cool thought if I might add. But it is interesting to see how women and men have different expectations in relationships and how those expectations play out when people are dating.
I have so much more to say about this topic, but I shall stop it at that while I do some more pondering on it and share some more thoughts that I have on that.
posted by jooties @ 9:39 PM
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so...this might be weird..i don't know you...but know your friend. i've been previously on my way to marriage with a boy i dated/courted for about 4 years... and i just have one piece of advice....keep your expectations simple and realistic. love of god...which will lead to respect, honesty, trust, and an eagerness to see you grow in the Lord and acceptance of who you are without trying to make you into someone that you're not. i'm on the second half of my 20's and let me just say..until a person truly knows who they are and what they like/dislike...then and only then...can you take on someone else. nevertheless...yes..it is nice to finally find that person you know you can't live without and share your time on earth with. will keep you two in my prayers.
Thanks for your words anonymous.
I agree with much of what you said. Realistic and simple are good ways to think of it. I am actually teaching a seminar this weekend at a Womens Conference at my church in SF on these issues which is why I wrote about it briefly on my blog.
I definitely agree that it is only when you know yourself then will you be able to take on getting to know another person on that level. Love of God was actually on my top list of "must haves" in a boyfriend. =)
I didn't mean to say that you didn't have God on the top of your list...that much I gathered. I apologize if I made you feel uncomfortable. This is a difficult subject for many women and one of the consequences of the first sin...in Genesis talks about how women's desire will always be for her husband (married or not). Our women are also at a retreat this weekend speaking on the topic contentment. And that pretty much sums it up...contentment on its many dynamic levels is what we strive for...thanks for letting me ramble. things that i've been pondering as well.
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